Today is a momentous day, because it means that there is only 2 months left before my long distance relationship ends, and I return to live in the same city as my beloved partner. 3 months down, 2 more to go.
Here’s a timeline of my relationship with my wonderful, patient, kind, loving, accepting, sweet, amazing partner.
September 6th: We meet at an international party. We spend the whole night talking and laughing like old friends. Upon saying goodbye, I tell him that I´m not interested in a relationship, that I think he’s a loose man, and that I’m going to go on a 600km hiking trip, during which I won’t be thinking of him at all because I’m the most important person in my life.
October 7th: We go for coffee “as friends”
October 14th: He has melted my ice cold heart and become a wonderful part of my life. We become “an item”
March 3rd: He leaves for Thailand. I make plans to visit over the summer.
❤ months long distance>
May 23rd: He comes back to Madrid for a week, on his way to work in Ireland for two months.
<2 months long distance>
July : We are reunited in his parents house in France. We spend 5 glorious weeks there, never arguing and being sickeningly romantic.
September 30th: I start my 5 month trip. Yoann tells me that he wants me to go as it’s what I’ve planned all along and he loves how independent I am.
<5 months long distance>
February 1st 2014: I’ll arrive in Bilbao, northern Spain. Can’t wait!
Having a relationship through Skype is hard. I always said that I would “never” have a long distance relationship with a boyfriend, as I’ve had ones with my family for a long time and I couldn’t imagine a boy being worth a life chained to the computer. Then I met Yoann, a man who said to me: “Go, because this is what you want. This is what is best for you. Follow your dreams. I’ll wait for you here”.
Here are some of my Skype highlights of my beloved that I´ve taken over the past few months without his knowledge.
Yoann, looking handsome and telling me about his day at work, teaching French.
My favourite times are when he takes the computer into the kitchen and talks to me while he’s cooking. We both love to cook and eat so we spend a lot of time in the kitchen together.
Yoann trying to make his computer work. He hates technology, and pulls this face when it goes wrong.
Yoann asking me if when we live together he can display “Jimi”, his Jimi Hendrix mural (which can be seen in the background).
Scratching his head when I talk to him about starting a family…………………………………….by getting a cat.
Putting his ear to the screen to better hear me.
Telling me a story involving his wild boxing strength.
Looking bored as I’m moaning at him about wearing a helmet while boxing.
Laughing at his own jokes harder than anyone else. He gets this from his Dad. They say it is a progressive illness.
Never compromise your dreams for a relationship, no matter how much you think you are in love. “What is meant for you will not go by you”, and if it’s real, then it’s worth testing.
The girls here often ask me how I know he doesn’t have another girlfriend, how I know that he isn’t cheating. “Well,” I say, “if he wanted to cheat on me, he would be just as likely to do it when I was there as when I’m not”. And if you don’t trust each other, then you don’t have anything.