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The Girl with the Daffodil Tattoo

A Welsh girl let loose in a wild world

Mindfulness

Anxious about feeling anxious.

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Bad Things to Say When Talking to Men

Toxic Femininity

Lisa comes in for an interview. All the interviewers judge her objectively, based on her qualifications and the candor of her responses. This leaves her so confused that, on the way out of the office, she accidentally walks into traffic and dies.
 
Clara comes back from maternity leave and finds that she has not been replaced. Having planned on needing to fight for her job, she had started taking boxing classes. With no one to fight at work, she punches her bathroom wall instead and breaks her hand. The doctor gives her the wrong medication, and she dies.
 
Members of the all-female upper management of a company never think to talk about sex in the workplace. As a result, they forget that sex exists and uniformly fail to perpetuate the human race. This is a global phenomenon that accelerates the demise of our species.
—This one is definitely not me. I love a good old chin wag about a bit of how’s your father.
 

Funny Women Therapy

https://www.theguardian.com/culture/2017/dec/30/samantha-bee-jo-brand-funny-women-got-me-through-2017

“Some of this is not high-level crime, is it?” smirked Ian Hislop. “Can I just say, as the only representative of the female gender here today,” Brand retorted, “if you’re constantly being harassed, even in a small way, that builds up and that wears you down.” No wonder these shows hate to have women on: they insist on ruining all the sexist lols. Funny women have power. They don’t care if you like it or not.

Books to Read

Jami Attenberg, All Grown Up

Sally Rooney, Conversations With Friends.

By contrast, the funniest novels of all time – the Adrian Mole series, Cold Comfort Farm, Heartburn, Bridget Jones’ Diary, everything by Jane Austen

Shows/Comedians to Watch

Samantha Bee

Alice Lowe’s  Prevenge

Aubrey Plaza, Ingrid Goes West (a terrific satire on social media)

Alia Shawkat Search Party

 

Men: Shut Up

Damon said there was “a difference between patting someone on the butt and rape or child molestation. Both of those behaviours need to be confronted and eradicated without question, but they shouldn’t be conflated.”

 

 

He added that society was in a “watershed moment” and said it was “wonderful that women are feeling empowered to tell their stories and it’s totally necessary”. But he said: “We live in this culture of outrage and injury, that we’re going to have to correct enough to kind of go, ‘Wait a minute. None of us came here perfect.’”

 

“Gosh it’s so interesting (profoundly unsurprising) how men with all these opinions about women’s differentiation between sexual misconduct, assault and rape reveal themselves to be utterly tone deaf and as a result, systemically part of the problem.”

 

On Saturday, Driver told the Guardian: “I felt I desperately needed to say something. I’ve realised that most men, good men, the men that I love, there is a cut-off. They simply cannot understand what abuse is like on a daily level.

“I honestly think that until we get on the same page, you can’t tell a woman about their abuse. A man cannot do that. No one can. It is so individual and so personal, it’s galling when a powerful man steps up and starts dictating the terms, whether he intends it or not.”

 

She added: “There is no hierarchy of abuse – that if a woman is raped [it] is much worse than if woman has a penis exposed to her that she didn’t want or ask for … you cannot tell those women that one is supposed to feel worse than the other.

 

“How about: it’s all fucking wrong and it’s all bad, and until you start seeing it under one umbrella it’s not your job to compartmentalise or judge what is worse and what is not. Let women do the speaking up right now. The time right now is for men just to listen and not have an opinion about it for once.”

 

“In the same stereotypical way that we see women being supportive of men in their endeavors,” she said, “I feel that’s what women need of men in this moment. They need men to lean on and not question.

 

“Men can rally and they can support, but I don’t think its appropriate, per se, for men to have an opinion about how women should be metabolising abuse. Ever.”

https://www.theguardian.com/film/2017/dec/16/minnie-driver-matt-damon-men-cannot-understand-abuse

Swimming Tips Freestyle/Front Crawl

 

Notes:

  1. Over turning- try leaving one goggle in the water while breathing to correct
  2. Look back- your line of sight should be looking behind you
  3. Breathe out through your nose- many people hold their breath by accident

Workplace Warriors

Action Movies

Fleabag

A show about a loveable rogue that makes me want to go home to the UK.

 

The protagonist is hilariously witty, using humour to make light of the darkness inside. She’s from a wealthy family, but her business is failing. She laments being a terrible feminist. Frankly, her messy life makes me feel better about my own.

She uses (some) men for what she can get, playing “them” at their own “game” as it were, by treating lovers as disposable and trampling hearts in her wake. The lovers, in turn, are actually “good” guys. Caring, affectionate, wanting to be loved, wanting romantic relationships; besotted with her; cuntnotised by her. Yet they talk too much, they’re only really interested in themselves, and are portrayed as idiots for thinking they are more intelligent than her, or women in general (“You’re not like other girls*. You can really…keep up”, said one doormat).

 

*How many times have I heard that one? Yawn.

 

 

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