2014 has been a difficult year for me and my family. In May, my mum’s cancer markers were up, and in June, we were given confirmation by the oncologist that she had 6 months to live. She passed away in November, at 61 years old, and I am still reeling from the loss, but I am doing my best to be positive and live my life, because that is what my mum would have wanted.
Here are some things I have learned in 2014.
1) It is impossible to die from emotional pain.
When you watch someone you love die, you might feel like the pain is so unbearable that you might die too. But you will survive.
2) People are basically good and kind.
Most people are nice. I was completely surprised by the amount of kind messages people I hadn’t spoken to in a long time sent me after reading my blog, even those whom I didn’t part on the best of terms with.
3) I shouldn’t drink that much.
There are a lot of people who can have a few beers and be “happy drunk”. Unfortunately, at the moment, I am not one of them.
4) Anger must be released in controlled explosions.
It’s OK to be angry, and it’s OK to be sad, but it’s not OK to take that out on other people. My partner has invited me to join him at the boxing gym this month, and I think I need it. The training may be beyond my physical abilities, but I need to get out my anger and what better thing to do than pulverise a punch bag?
5) Sports massages are wonderful!
Psychological pain can cause physical pain. Watching my mother deteriorate made my shoulders tense up to such an extent that some days I could barely turn my head. Then I found a wonderful sports massage therapist.
6) Life is short. Enjoy every day!
No matter what’s happening in your life, there are always small things you can enjoy every day. A nice hot shower, a walk in the park, laughing with friends, pictures of cats…
7) Be grateful for what you have.
A clean safe home. Running water. A hot shower. Clean clothes. Enough food to eat. Contraception. Health care. The dentist. A library card. The internet. So many people don’t have access to these simple things.
8) I really actually enjoy seeing pictures of people’s babies on my newsfeed.
I might be one of those rare people that loves seeing pictures of people’s growing families on their newsfeed. More baby pictures please! Picks me right up when I’m feeling down 🙂