TED: Paula Stone. I’ve lived as a man & a woman– here’s what I learned

 

“People may spend their whole lives climbing the ladder of success only to find, once they reach the top, that the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall.” Thomas Merton

Pockets on women’s jeans.

There is just no way a well-educated white male can understand how much the culture is tilted in his favour.

I will not live long enough to lose my male privilege.

We need more men like Mark who are willing to honour and empower women.

I never realised I had privilege. And so do you. And what can you do? You can believe us.

 

 

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I absolutely love this comedian. Watching his BBC shows, looking at the credits, I see how many people it takes to produce something of that quality. But his earlier videos were much more simple:

http://www.heraldscotland.com/news/16130965.The_making_of_Limmy__The_comedian_on_life__fame_and_growing_up_in_Glasgow/

Limond acknowledges that social media is a different experience for women. “For men there’s not all the sexual shaming side of it. I did have someone once say to me something like ‘I hope your wife and wean dies’. I don’t care. I don’t care because I’m worse than them. They probably think that’s an evil thing to say but I think 100 times worse than that in my head. So it doesn’t bother me. Sometimes I kind of like it. If someone really goes out of their way to bother me then I know they’re unhappy … and that kind of makes me happy.”

ANOTHER of his handmade sketches is just seconds long but beautifully encapsulates a current social media flaw, that of a coterie of media and academic types chewing over issues using language and acronyms the rest of the population can’t be expected to keep abreast of. “My issue with all sort of social justice stuff and leftie stuff, and I would put myself on a social justice leftie side, is some of the terminology is jargon. I’m up to speed with this patter but who are you speaking to? Is this just for youse? And I feel that way with the Cambridge Analytica. It’s alright to do these big exposes but what happens next, how does it make a difference, who are you speaking to when you do these big things? How does it get interpreted? You need something like the Sun, who speaks to the lowest common denominator.”

It’s a dilemma, that as soon as a person becomes a television personality they start to slide into the category of middle class. How do you ensure the representation of working-class people in the media when, as soon as we join the trade, we have less claim to be working class?

I suggest there needs to be a reclassification with an extra category or two, but Limond disputes this strongly.

“Naw, naw,” he shakes his head. “Get rid of it all. We don’t need another one. Working class, middle class, get rid of it.”

“You have to talk in the language of normal people or why even bother? You’re just showing off.”

This time, he says, he would still vote Yes but he would sit back. He’s decided you can’t change people’s minds by “bashing it over” their heads.

Millicent Fawcett: First woman statue on Parliament Square

Change is a coming!

http://www.bbc.com/news/av/uk-43881609/millicent-fawcett-first-woman-statue-on-parliament-square

Statues are as important as films, books and media. We conceptualise (white) men as heroes, we focus on them in our androcentric societies. In the UK we ignore our colonial past and our part in the horrors of the slave trade that has made our country rich.

How can businesses tackle sexual harassment?

Original article here.

One answer is independent whistle-blowing phone lines – already used by many blue chip companies.

They are the backstop for employees when they don’t feel they can talk to their boss, who might even be the instigator or facilitator of harassment.

 

For any problem, the HR manager’s solution of choice is sending employees on training courses.

It might sound crude, but sexual harassment training has been common practice in America since the 1990s and is spreading to Europe.

Elizabeth Tippett, associate professor at the University of Oregon School of Law, says many such programmes should be treated with a healthy dose of scepticism as businesses tend to use them as a check box.

 

Dr Julia Shaw is trying to bring this to smaller businesses with her reporting app Talk to Spot. It’s a chatbot that asks users factual questions to create an account of what has happened that they can present to their manager or keep for themselves.

She argues that people in the workplace are rarely trained in asking the “right” kind of questions and it can be difficult to open up to someone in person.

“The quality of your memory is evidence and is critical to being believed, to actually making sure that something can happen to deal with the situation.

“You can chat to our bot immediately, you don’t have to wait for an HR person or wonder ‘do I trust this person or not?’ You can record it, time stamp it, and produce the evidence when you need it.”

She says an easy thing for businesses to do is acknowledge reports within 24 hours – her research has found that this cuts down on mental health repercussions for the victim.

 

If the senior ranks of a company are overwhelmingly male, it is easier for a “boy’s club” culture to persist, where harassment is tolerated and complaints are not taken seriously.

Katherine Switzer, 261

Original article here.

Official retribution was swift. “In the end, after I’d finished the race, I was disqualified and expelled from the athletics federation because I had run with men, because I had run more than a mile and a half and because I had fraudulently entered the race, which was not true – and the worst one was because I had run without a chaperone. It just shows the attitude that existed in 1967: people thought that if women ran they would turn into a man or that it was socially objectionable.”

Her actions triggered a clamour for equality in the running world that could not be silenced. Five years later, Boston allowed women to compete and Switzer was on her way to becoming a de facto ambassador for women’s running. On Sunday she will be the official starter for the women’s elite race, after which she will join around 40,000 people looking to get around the 26.2 mile course in temperatures that experts warn will prove difficult for the non-elite runners.


Last year, half a century on from the infamous race that earned her global recognition, Boston retired bib No 261 as a mark of respect to Switzer, for whom running has always been gender blind. “It’s about equality, it’s about inclusion and it’s also about peace,” she says.

Criticism When You’ve Had a Bad Childhood

Our childhood’s influence the way the love ourselves.

Bad childhood’s lead us to the need to seek out situations where there is the possibility of outsized approval which also means the risk of encountering outsized disapproval.

Do I deserve to exist?

The world will never give us what we seek. There will always be dissenters and critics.

It’s to these voices that those with bad childhoods will forever be attuned.

The marker of being a good parent means that our child doesn’t have the need to be liked by large numbers of strangers.

Criticism takes them back to the primordial injury.  An attack now becomes entwined with the attacks of the past.

We can learn to separate the verdict of today with the emotional verdict that we are carrying around with us.

Fatefully sensitive, and in essence, mentally unwell.

We get a second chance. We can go back and correct the verdict of the world.

Take measures to expose ourselves to the opinions of friends or a talented psychotherapist who can hold up a more benign mirror.

Whatever our flaws:

we deserve to be here.

 

Audio Formats: Garage Band to Audacity

I’ve found  a pirate version for Audacity so I’m transferring over to that program.

I have the option of exporting from Garage Band in Wave, MP3, AIFF, or AAC.

WAVE

Uncompressed audio format

Common in PCS

Waveform Audio File Format (WAVE, or more commonly known as WAV due to its filename extension – both pronounced “wave”[6])[3][7][8][9] (rarely, Audio for Windows)[10] is a Microsoft and IBM audio file format standard for storing an audio bitstream on PCs. It is an application of the Resource Interchange File Format (RIFF) bitstream format method for storing data in “chunks”, and thus is also close to the 8SVX and the AIFF format used on Amiga and Macintosh computers, respectively. It is the main format used on Windows systems for raw and typically uncompressed audio.

 

Commonly used for storing uncompressed (PCM), CD-quality sound files, which means that they can be large in size—around 10 MB per minute. Wave files can also contain data encoded with a variety of (lossy) codecs to reduce the file size (for example the GSM or MP3 formats).

AIFF

-Uncompressed audio format

-Could be considered the Apple equivalent of wav.

MP3 AAC

Formats with lossy compression.

 

Looks like AIFF is the right format for my uses.